To Make More Money, Men Need to Stop Complaining About the World Being Soft

We live in a soft society. There’s no question about it.

The participation trophies for everyone, the media and school systems forcing people to pay attention to their “feelings,” and the de-masculinization in Hollywood are at an all-time high.

Hell, people are crying for a four-day workweek now, too!

As a result, the “manly men” out there have turned their focus to this issue to “fight” back.

However, from what I’ve seen, they aren’t fighting. They’re crying and complaining! Which, funny enough, is one of the SOFTEST things a man can do.

They’re being soft by complaining about the world being soft! Dummies. I find it hysterical.

This behavior needs to stop.

Why? Because none of these actions help you make more money or move forward in life.

And since I've built multiple businesses and made millions and millions of dollars, and you most likely haven't, maybe you should hear me out.

Why You Need to Stop Complaining

There’s a difference between venting and complaining.

Venting is feeling your emotions to lessen the build-up of pressure within us to keep moving forward.

Complaining is just straight-up bitching. It’s moaning, whining, and lamenting for the sake of doing so. Not for the intention of moving forward.

There’s a saying out there: What you focus on expands. And, for the most part, it’s true.

Whatever you focus on, you’re going to feel. And what we feel–and how we feel about what we focus on–determines our state.

Complaining takes negative thoughts, charges those thoughts with negative emotions, and then gives the negativity even more power by vocalizing it.

Here’s some life advice for you:

Never say anything about yourself or your life that you don’t want to be true!

Also, this isn’t some “Law of Attraction” stuff. I’m not saying to be delusionally positive, pretending everything is sunshine and rainbows when it isn’t. No. That’s unrealistic and impractical.

Instead, I am saying not to complain. To not immediately jump to strengthening the negative feelings on a particular issue. Just don’t do it.

And science has proven that complaining makes you dumber! A 1996 Stanford study showed that

“...complaining or even being complained to for thirty minutes or more can physically damage the brain.”

Complaining does nothing except make us feel worse than we initially did. It adds power to negativity, which creates negative momentum, spilling over into the other areas of our life and screwing them up, creating new situations to keep complaining about.

And it wastes time. Time that you’ll never get back.

What To Do Instead

Nobody likes complainers.

We never wake up and say, “I want to be around a ton of complainers today!” A part of ourselves doesn’t even like us when we complain.

It’s how cry babies operate. Not “G’s.”

Go Neutral

Instead of being delusionally positive or jumping to complaining and cascading negativity, can you be neutral? Can you choose not to react to negativity by whining?

I know. It’s easier said than done. However, you can do it. And for me, I’d much rather be neutral than negative.

Choosing neutral in these instances allows us to focus differently. And knowing that whatever we focus on, we feel, we can choose to feel neutral over something we label “negative.”

Taking control like this allows us to stay in control of our state. And while we are in control, we make better choices and can take better actions or “perform” better, as the opening quote above insinuates.

When situations come up–and they will– take a breath, and then ask yourself:

“Do I have to choose negative right now?”

Make sure you say, “No!” And then just be neutral until the feeling passes.

Remember that your feelings aren’t commandments. Feeling negative doesn’t mean you need to become negative.

Practice Stoicism

Stoicism doesn’t mean you feel nothing like some robot.

Stoicism is practicing responding to situations that pop up in life—not simply reacting like a child with no emotional control.

This skill is highly beneficial in the game of money and business.

Would you rather follow a leader or CEO who is cool and calm under pressure? Someone who responds and takes appropriate, controlled actions?

Or someone who reacts to bad news and loses their mind in a fit of rage?

How about if you dabble in the market trading stocks?

If you freak out and make emotional decisions based on what the market is doing, not only will you lose money, but you will also lose your mind.

I highly suggest you get Ryan Holiday’s The Daily Stoic and start cultivating the skill of controlling your emotions. Ryan’s my boy and the authority on Stoicism today.

If you want a quicker introduction, I interviewed Ryan on my YouTube channel.

Focus On Your Goals

When the whole world is being soft, don’t waste your time complaining about people and situations you have no control over.

Instead, use that time to focus on your goals.

If your competition is out there complaining about how the world is soft (the irony is still hysterical), then this situation is GOOD because you can use the time to get ahead while they whine.

Let them whine and waste time while you go and win.

Shift Your Attention

Business success comes down to many things, but if I had to pick one, it would be to bring value to the marketplace.

And we bring the best value by solving problems, not lamenting about them.

But when you whine, moan, cry, and complain about anything, you’re focused on problems, not solutions.

How can you find the solutions when focused on the problems? You can’t.

Successful people view problems differently. They don’t view problems as a reason to complain. They view problems as opportunities to find solutions to improve the world.

Theodore Roosevelt said,

The BMM Takeaway

We have the same freedom to complain as we do to choose the path of seeking solutions. We can select either road to take. It requires the same amount of energy. Yet, one road is a reaction that creates misery, while the other is a response that creates opportunity.

You have to get into a solution-oriented state.

You must be able to identify problems and then immediately shift your attention to coming up with solutions. This ability is what separates the 1% from the 99%.

Which category would you rather be in?

Not only will you feel better than the complainers of the world, but you’ll be compensated handsomely for it.

Identify problems without complaining. Seek solutions. Bring them to life. Deliver them to the marketplace.

And you’ll get more money.