How To Last Longer In Bed (My Proven Methods)

My Proven Secrets To Lasting Longer In Bed

Most guys fumble the bag because they can’t control themselves.

They think the trick is to distract themselves. Thinking about baseball, dead puppies, or some weird sh*t like that.

That doesn’t work.

The problem isn’t that you’re too turned on. The problem is you have no control.

If you want to last longer, you need to train yourself to handle high levels of pleasure without folding.

It’s all about focus, breathing, and turning into a full monk when it counts.

This IS possible. Here’s how you actually do it.

Control Your Breathing Or Lose Completely

Your breathing is killing your stamina.

When you’re about to finish, your breath gets short, shallow, and completely erratic. That’s your body taking over and forcing you to bust before you’re ready.

You have to take back control.

Here’s what you do:

• Instead of making your normal “O” face, get dead serious. You must lock in. No O-face, no giving in, just focus and keep a straight face.
  

• Breathe deep and slow. Inhale through your nose, slow as hell. Exhale just as slow. Don’t rush it.
  

• MOST IMPORTANT: Don’t let your girl see you doing this. If she sees you looking like a serial killer while you’re giving it to her, it’s gonna freak her out. (See below for the solution).

Missionary Is A Trap

If you’re in missionary, you’ve already lost.

Think about it:

• You’re face-to-face. She’s looking at you, moaning, making it 10x harder to stay calm.

• Too intimate. Your brain is overloaded with emotions and sensations.

• Bad leverage. You’re doing all the work, burning yourself out fast.

The fix? Doggy.

• She can’t see your face. You’re locked in, doing your breathing, and she has no idea.

• You control the pace. No risk of her wrapping her legs around you and forcing you to finish.

• It dials back the intimacy. When you’re too deep in the moment, you lose control. This keeps things manageable.

Doggy buys you time and puts you in the driver’s seat.

Slow It Way Down

Most guys burn through their stamina because they think fast = better.

Wrong.

Speed kills you when it comes to lasting longer. If you want to stay in the game, you have to slow it down.

Here’s how:

• Cut your speed in 1/2. Whatever pace feels normal? Slow it down by 50%.

• Go even slower. Almost painfully slow. It should feel ridiculous at first.

• Breathe deep while you do it. Keep control over yourself.

At first, it might feel unnatural. But this trains your body to handle pleasure instead of losing control to it.

Once you master slowing down, you’ll be twice as durable.

Empty Your Mind

This is the real secret.

To “reset” your bust meter you gotta do a mini cortisol flood.

Cortisol is the chemical that’s released when you’re stressed, and it’s like the antidote to a hard on.

And if you get skilled and focused enough, you can practically dial this in scientifically just with your goddamn thoughts.

Here’s how to do it:

• Empty your mind. Stop thinking about how good it feels. Stop focusing on her. Go blank.
  

• Pretend you don’t even care. Act like this is just a chore. Like you’re fixing a leaky sink. Bored. Unimpressed. Indifferent.
  

• Hold that mindset for 10-20 seconds. Keep breathing deep. Keep moving slow. Let the wave pass.

This resets your body and buys you time.

Once those 10-20 seconds are up, you can turn the intensity back up without worrying.

Repeat, stay focused, and you can literally last forever.

The BMM Takeaway

If you want to feel like you actually handled business, you need to start lasting longer.

Not just for her, for you. Because if you bust too quick, you already know what comes next… laying there knowing your girl is nowhere near satisfied.

It takes the average woman 18 minutes of stimulation just to get close to climax.

So if you're clocking out in five, you didn’t even put a dent in the work.

That’s why you need to master this technique. It’s for the sake of your relationship (or your reputation).

Stay patient, build that focus, and you’ll gain the resilience and endurance of a monk in no time.